Why Do People Feel A Need to Cheat?

No one can make you feel emotions but you

I heard the song Bye, Bye Baby this morning. I grew up on the oldies channel so it’s not new to me. It just reminded me of something I thought I should write about.

Your the one girl in town I'd marry. Girl I'd marry you now if I were free. I wish it could be. I could love you but why begin it ‘cause there ain't any future in it. She's got me and I'm not free…

The song is about a man who is already married talking about another woman he wishes he could marry. Why do people in relationships get drawn to another?

Why the Roaming Eyes?

Gregg Braden did a long talk (2 hours) on the Essene Mirrors. This is the idea that what we perceive in life is mirroring back to us things about ourselves. With a general idea of the law of attraction or the idea of projection, you might think that everything is mirroring back to you what or how you are. But that’s simply one mirror. In the video, he talks about seven of them.

About 28 minutes into it he starts talking about people who feel that spark when they meet someone new and think they’ve suddenly fallen in love at first sight. He discusses an instance in which he had a spark with a woman. He says if it had happened in the past he would have chased after her with a romantic gesture. But he knew it wasn’t that he was supposed to have that relationship. It was something else.

There’s something else going on. He asked himself “What is it about her I miss?” as she was leaving his life. He realized she had an innocence about her that he felt he had lost, so when he saw this thing that he has lost in her he loved it (the innocence). This was a mirror that showed him that he thinks he has lost his innocence. But I would also point out that it shows that he can still attract innocence into his life.

If you ever are in a relationship and think a different person would be better, the issue is within yourself and you’re very likely miswanting the other person. I would suggest you ask yourself what it is that you’re specifically attracted to when you think about the second person.

As I’ve said before we often think we want something, but it’s not the manifestation that we want, it’s the feeling we think we will have when we get the manifestation that we actually want. What feeling do you think this other person would give you that you’re not getting otherwise? Once you know what feeling it is, then try to think of ways to feel that feeling without breaking up your relationship.

Now I’m going to get personal with my past relationships to further show why the “other” is not what you’re truly after.