Meditating With What You Hate
You can use your triggers to release old emotions to stop attracting those things
I wrote a while ago about something that pissed me off. I wanted to write about the process that I used since it happened. I mentioned some in that article. If you didn’t read the article, basically I bought a divider and it looked pretty from a distance but was very blurry when closer to it. It brought up intense emotions, so I decided to meditate with the divider among other things.
Using Anger As Fuel & Manure To Grow Fruit
When I’m angry I choose to take actions, such as exercising. I decided to declutter and I made a video about that. When things seem to go wrong in one aspect of your life, you can remember that you can still appreciate other things in your life, and I wanted to make my own kombucha tea again. I wanted to declutter as well, so I decided to do this that Saturday.
I got a lot of energy out by lifting the heavy boxes and walking around trying to clean things up. I also felt productive by making the video and sharing it with others who could benefit from my excess energy expenditure.
After listening to music while sitting on the table with my record player, I decided to meditate.
Using Triggers to Release Trapped Emotions
I set the divider up and placed my meditation rug in front of it. I looked at the blurriness and let the “negative” emotions come up. We call them “negative” emotions because they feel bad, but they’re good to be aware of. They’re signs that we are not seeing things the same way God-Source sees them.
Using Triggers to Learn More About Myself
By viewing this thing that seemed to be making me upset, I knew it was not the thing offending me. It was my beliefs about what happened that were making me upset. I felt like I had been taken advantage of. I felt like a “victim” and this seller was a “persecutor.”
It was bringing up thoughts like “It’s not worth it to do something nice for myself,” and “I’m always taken advantage of.” Those are the thoughts of a much younger me. I allowed those thoughts to come up, but I also questioned them. I asked myself, “Is it true that it’s not worth it to be kind to myself?” Of course, that wasn’t true. I was worth being kind to. And I asked myself if I was always taken advantage of, and that wasn’t true either.
You can know that on an intellectual level, but from an emotional standpoint it still stung. But allowing that to come up and being mindful and not angry at the emotions and thoughts lets the old stored emotions and negative beliefs dissipate.
I also learned as I complained about this that other people don’t find the blurriness to be too bad or wouldn’t notice it if I hadn’t pointed it out. This means that I, as a graphic designer and perfectionist, am tougher on this issue than others would be. So I probably shouldn’t buy art like this if I can’t see it in person.
I stood up for myself and complained. I left a 1-star review and got about 50% of the money I laid down back. I am still slightly angry about not getting a full refund. But I will chalk this up to unforeseen expenses. It was only a day or so before I was thinking about how I should be grateful I have the money to cover this and I did get a good portion back.
I meditated with it in this manner about 3 times. I may do some more. I like being able to use it to trigger my emotions, but it’s working less and less each time because the emotions are dissipating, which is a great thing.
Other things in my life have been going better since then, so this is another one of those things where I thought that it would be horrible and I would be sad forever only to find out that people bounce back quickly. I knew the research. It’s in the article on Miswanting. We think negative news will affect us for a long time, but it doesn’t. Humans bounce back quickly.
“It seems that merely considering the emotional impact of an event can lead us to overestimate that impact, simply because we do not also consider other impactful events as well. Focalism is an especially vexing problem because avoiding it seems to require that we do the impossible, namely, consider the impact of every event before estimating the impact of any event. If we think of happiness as a general state that is determined by innumerable events, it does indeed seem likely that no single event will have the power to influence our general happiness for very long.”
“Miswanting: Some Problems in the Forecasting of Future Affective States” by Daniel T. Gilbert and Timothy D. Wilson. (from my reading of the paper).
One of the other events that happened around this time was finding the song, “It’s a Beautiful Day,” as I recently wrote about in If Ho'oponopono Were A Song. That helped improve my emotional state a lot.
If we can see these “negative” triggers as good things, allowing us to let go of old trapped emotions so we could attract from a better perspective then we wouldn’t be as upset when they appeared and we could get over it a lot quicker.
I hope this helps people to re-think their reactions to very upsetting news at least a little bit.
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